Broken Anger disconnected result….


Where anger can break you free….

Ever been so angry that you couldn’t take it anymore, you just want to explode because of another’s thinking is pointing at you and saying you are responsible for this mess… You are responsible for how I feel. We can make others responsible for many things to include this way of feeling it is how wars are started, fights are started, pain is caused and inflicted etc… You can’t fix this in anyone and to do so is only going to cause you more non peace than peace.

The more you fight to be right, the more you leave yourself open to be wrong.. not because of the other persons energy but because the fight on going inside, is keeping this very energy alive.

You can give up… it always means to give up to give in and just surrender… seek no more means to keep the fight going, just surrender and let go!

Your inner resistance to what you fight inside you keeps you in a state of conflict and comes out in your energy in how you communicate to others in the world.
It would sound much like this in surrender….
This is all I got in this moment my energy is beyond angry and beyond justified because all I was fighting for was to make sure she knew I had her back.. I did this with love, I did this with the feeling that I want her to genuinely see that my energy is on her side…

I am done running into a brick wall.. I am done being unheard… i am done not being loved… there is no love in this, this is just a role that is being played to call to my guilt to call to what actions she thinks I can have that I have no clue about because she is shut down…

I refuse to be in this in this way… I am good… letting go now! Bye

This is violent in nature to the soul which remains at peace and doesn’t see it other than human nature which has a certain amount of discomfort to the human body that has to endure this way in ego, it expresses pain and yet it expresses the truth, powerlessness. The ego will not be able to see the peaceful state the soul is in.. It will seek connection back to it’s source which is a peaceful state you can elect to be in NOW! Now is the only moment this can be embraced.

The truth about not having love is found in what anger brings inside of you, it says you can’t change anything, you can’t impact anything so when you have no power in truth, you seek an energy of release. This can be how you release yourself and release the deeper meaning of saying I am powerless to do anything.

This activates both the emotional state of being and the pain itself. The pain body activates and makes this a story that gives food for the pain. How do you stop feeding the pain body at this
moment, you stop attaching a story to it, the inner self, higher self as it were can only give you peace. Many of what your mind will tell you this is not something you can embrace for it needs to have it’s needs met in this moment. Much like a swan… shake it off, it is surplus energy that is invading the body needing release. Keeping it in is unhealthy.. Is the unhealthiness going to make the energy change and create true power to change anything? The answer here is NO.. it can’t.. It is a learned behavior of accepting what is and resisting it at the same time.
When something triggers you, where did your inner peace go? what if you said this story needs to be let go, it is attaching itself to pain a pain that was there before this all occurred! Pain activation is always seeking food and it never gets full..

How are you falling in love with pain to realize it doesn’t digest love it only makes it smaller because the pain is not being fed! Don’t seek someone outside of you to give this to you, seek inside to see the truth that you are the only one who can give it to you to no longer allow the story to end and the pain to feel true love!

Love deeply,

Do you Trust YOURSELF???



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How you abandon your twin! The factor of abandoning yourself!

AbandonmentHi there Lois and Clark!

I had a few questions I hope you could help me:

How can one twin help other when one is having mental illness and how can it affect the other soul half? How can I help my other half? etc

How much the interaction and the relationship what twins are having with their opposite gender parent (for man a mother or for woman a father) has to do with how twins communicate with each other?

Thank you soo much!

These questions seem’s a little bit better for me.

Thank you soo much. I cannot describe how much it means.

Lots of light and love


This is another factor to abandonment and what it is showing you is clearly written here in what is being asked…  You see as you seek outside confirmation of being, you are not seeing the total picture of what you are doing to yourself that is doing this to the other.  If you notice I am not mentioning the other in this as it is a place of escape!  I am mentioning to you the cover up of your own abandonment on yourself is an energy shared to the other… unless or until you relinquish this abandonment by going into it inside yourself you are enabling the connection in abandonment to the other and the answers you don’t have that you are covering up this truth instead of facing to stand within your truth remain hidden by not seeing rather that opening wider to it to see it.

It effects the source of the connection to the outer part of the soul but the inner part of the soul goes deeper into connection to stay rooted…

You are not seeing this as a truth as you both have been infected with wondering what was inside yourselves… and still see this is still happening.. Whether it was your father or his mother the past replays the story over and over in you.  In this story you are seeking someone again and again to cover up this unease in each other whether known or unknown is where the only true point of origin this can be embraced is inside yourself by yourself.

Going back to the root, you go back deep inside to the place that this WAS inside you to cause you the pain that you had to make about you during a point in time.  Where in truth it isn’t about you at all and it never was.  The interaction that withstood the point of things that happened to keep you from communicating this belief that you held in a space inside yourself was consumed by the space of why’s or what’s or who’s in a very confined space. This only became stronger with your mother lets say as a boy you were always accepted but not in truth inside you.  You would feel a certain way and it was either ignored, isolated, or caused undue disconnection by both the mother and son.

This was a communication gap and conditions of love not the truth of unconditional love that is a two way street! In you it became a one way street for the mother was probably taught this as a child with a means of communication with a father that learned this same template of behavior infused with this same energy.   Some point in their existence this happened and is now the excuse for why they do it to you.

This little bit of knowing is a lot to know inside you, as a means to find the truth or the root as it were.  The truth is you can’t do or be what you aren’t taught because of not having a template to show you how to be this way to yourself or to anyone else.  To break this cycle and do so will cause a bit of discomfort, because it is not a normal behavior in energy that you know how to do.  Yet when you strive to do this what was uncomfortable becomes comfortable, what were placed in conditions becomes unconditional and as long as you seek the now as a means to express what you feel inside compassionately.  The compassion will break all cycles while you embrace this truth!

The abandonment that you are doing to the self needs you to see this, the abandonment that you are doing to others needs you to see this!  To become consciously aware of how your energy is to yourself that you are wanting in truth to show the other person.  No one can be responsible for this outside you.  Only you and your ability to share what you give to yourself.  This comes to all the energy you want to share with another to include happiness, sadness, anger, bliss, etc…  This is the hidden place of what we do to ourselves we make energy to do to others.  The depth of what is being said here is to point you to this inside you to see this without seeing this in the other person.  When you come to that root of why you are hurt by something outside you.  You can then see it clearly from all the angles.  You then will ask the right questions inside you to make this something you can remove.

How do you give this without this being what you have done inside yourself? You see you are asking a question that of course anyone can bandaid and give you a glimmer of hope that it will resolve itself.  Yet just as history has taught you will do the outside work and not see the inside work still leaves a root to rear its ugly head again!

So know that where I am pointing you at is the cycle of thought that is there as a means of protection, as a means of defense or offense, this has been embedded in you as a means to be in the world of form and it has found its home in you to keep the (way of thinking or ego) in effect to see everything in the light that is partially part of the light of all truth.

I hope this spoke to you inside for this is the door open for you to fully immerse you into the NOW, where true change is possible! This is without suffering back into old thought patterns, old behaviors that don’t suit you or those outside you anymore.  You are powerful beyond measure in that light, that you do see the choice is that is what must be embraced.

Love Deeply,


Cheating… a truth in Abandonment

The truth about cheating is that it isn’t about the other person it is about oneself.  The questions no matter the age are what is lacking in yourself that you would seek outside the relationship to be fulfilled.  This form of abandonment is what has continued to happen as a cycle.  At some point within the existence something was unanswered as someone close to the child at birth or child growing up experienced someone leaving who was supposed to be connected through unconditional love.  It created a seed that will be unattended for the child to become an adult and not ever know a true reason why this abandonment was left. This by itself left the place of lies to be embedded in the child, allowing them to make decisions that would ultimately leave a thought process that they were going to be abandoned anyway, this happens to all whether a man or woman who will make such choices.  This experience isn’t about the other person,  in fact it is not even about the person you are cheating with, whether it be another or multiple.  You are seeking a conquest to find what you feel inside is in void to share with another.  One prominent factor remains about cheating, you are in a significant role and are always seeking to make someone responsible for something you are inside yourself. If you are seeking an energy that is going to be given back to you in some way you will find it, yet it will not remain to be something you will be able to say I am no longer going to exhibit this behavior.  The root is never truthfully gone into as to why we abandon others and it is all a direct path to a lie you told yourself to cover up your pain.  This cheating is no different than suffering.  It is always going to seek in ego and never seek in love of the soul you have within yourself.  When you are abandoning yourself it will be just as easy to abandon someone else. In fact it won’t even seem to be that you will find yourself doing anything wrong.  As you hold onto the lie that you will be abandoned you will never share with another that this is something you live by.  An example:  As a little girl who would grow into a beautiful woman her father left her at age 10, he didn’t explain why and the child was left with unanswered questions and a mother she was connected to was bitter and ended up finding someone else who didn’t give the child the unconditional love the father did or lets even say they tried.  Nothing will be more painful than a child who will seek this as a reason to find that they are going to be abandoned.  The stronger the male relationships they have growing up will not fix this, as they will always be expecting abandonment.  They will always have pain that surfaces when they feel the energy that they will be abandoned.  They will make someone responsible for this never taking the responsibility to heal it for themselves.  They will not seek these answers inside for the outside is where the abandonment took place.  Yes this points to how they will abandon themselves. They will seek out familiar energy of someone who will be flighty and will also do things they will not like or who they truly are to keep them thinking they will find the ultimate solution to keep someone with them in love whether conditional or unconditional.  This turns to manipulation, this turns to deceit on the end that they are already deceiving themselves.  Do you see how this as an energy will consume to make it right to make a decision to cheat or keep finding the proof that the ego needs to be able to make this a cycle.  All cheating has a route away from the root, it is when we seek inside of ourselves to heal this to change the path of finding that root.  Cheating is not to be cured it is a symptom of something greater as a lie that is embedded that needs ego to protect against a lie that is being told to the human that is experiencing it in pain that is prolonged.  This can’t be shared for it is hidden inside the dirt of the soil that is always protecting the root which is suffering!

The truth about cheating is that you are abandoning yourself which makes it alright to abandon someone else!

Month #1 of our 2014 Healing Series!

Month #1 of our 2014 Healing Series!

A New Year is upon us ! A Year of Healing ! Relationship Reinvented Is running a 10 month series, a different focus topic every month for the next 10 months! January our series is on Abandonment ! Its time for Healing!