Dissolve your PAIN… Connection is NOW Rebirth!

Pain of birth into connection….

The story is…. What you have to endure in connection happens to you at birth. The pain of what is your reality grows in you from things that happen to you, and how you will attach what is thinking about pain to the core pain itself. The first experience of pain is always something that comes from outside of us, whether it be rejection, whether it be abandonment! The act itself creates independence in the mind and will doom you until you see the depth of what you have said inside yourself for these things to truly take place.

Ok, still scratching your head? Well let’s look at what pain is to the core! We all have a story to our pain and when the story can continue to be told through new experiences or repeated patterns of something that happened to us, we will give the story in this case food for the pain to feed on. It is always trying to show you this by the thought patterns that will happen to you.

Remember the statement you don’t happen to thinking, thinking happens to you! Yes, this is actually what causes the pain to feed. Being conscious of this is the first step in awareness and also of awakening. The dark night of the soul would dictate that you are becoming aware of your thinking that is happening to you. Yet instead we try and think it away because this in truth is the very thing that is happening to you so to immerse yourself more into thinking, which gives you more of the pain rather than making it less until you find a means to manipulate yourself in thinking to think it away.. Yes this is very possible and is something we don’t see because we don’t see the deeper truth about thinking and it’s need to meet what we endure in it…

When I went through the dark night of the soul, the pain was absolutely excruciating. I didn’t want the pain or couldn’t make the pain stop. The truth was my thinking was keeping this alive, it wasn’t that I wanted it to go away, for this to be true, I would have had to see deeper into my thoughts. If it was something I didn’t elect then my thinking would have changed consciously. Yet instead of seeing the truth, I remained unconscious which to keep thinking over and over the same things is unconscious. I let the tears of that pain flow into what would have seem to be a ocean of the self that I was flooded with when it came to pain. The pain itself would be the salt in the water as it were and it was outlined in the salt and would be of each thought I would experience. How do you cleanse such a thing right?

This happened to me a majority of the time, cause that was the problem all in itself I was completely addicted (Yes the word addiction is being used here to point to the problem of why we don’t see thinking as we should as a human being with a powerful human condition.) I was addicted to thinking about the story of what was or what will be and never focused on what is! It was non acceptance of the present moment which was the only place I could embrace my pain without the story thus clearing the salt or thoughts that kept the cycle going! Yes, the mind or ego has no use for you in the present moment unless it can take you out of time which is to make you think about what was or what will be.

The mind can’t truly function as we need to without time it doesn’t know how!

This has many things that have kept us from ever reaching the point of living a life of joy and harmony it is the static in the connection that is so loud we can’t see it. The mind can make you the subject of many things to include emotional pain, rejection and abandonment of the self.

Your pain is your outcome to the pains you have held onto before you even knew what intimate unconditional love was. Does your love have conditions? This points to its removal! You will unconsciously seek out this pain and suffer. The more you suffer the more your mind creates what the pain is. It is how we solve problems or think we can solve problems.

When I was trying to be in this connection and trying to make her responsible for my emotional state which is to say we make others responsible for something only we can be responsible for. We now will create permissions inside the mind to not pay attention to our own intuition. You suffer in this as you would a child who wants attention and when we don’t get it we will act out! This even happens with conversations we experience in the mind when we set expectations with others. It creates the emotional body that will find a clear path to the pain body we are in.

For this to occur we make resistance to the present moment into a place we resist and in that resistance we have to give the mind all the attention and make this about what the mind needs and wants and what our soul can experience is a curse of sorts.
Pain will find a way to feed on pain and this comes in a story that keeps our emotional state inside the story the mind gives us!

Is this a sane way to live? Do you ignore your intuition and allow the mind to manipulate you into being more open to an outside truth that ultimately will be a lie you have to endure within yourself? Do you see that this is a means to totally keep yourself from the truth about the ego or mind and it’s dominant way of saying you are no more able to escape unconscious behavior than you are to elect to be conscious which is a choice to be when you elect to be in the present moment.

Definition of insanity is to repeat the same behavior over and over again and expect a different result. How could you repeat anything if you truly embraced the truth. The NOW never repeats only the mind does in the NOW which keeps you from NOW..

The question then becomes how do you find your true self if you are living entirely in the mind? The answer is does your mind use you or do you use it?

The mind can’t function in the now… Only you can!!!!!!

Love deeply,

Clark

Awaking truth be connected!

The waking of unconscious patterns in you!
In true connection there is now moments where it is hard to be conscious, the moment this takes over you, thoughts of being complete, thoughts of ever being whole evade you. In fact most of what you experience is a sense of judgement on yourself which will directly point to the other person and you will not be conscious of this or what has taken over you. The mind will make this about their behavior, their rejection, or abandonment of you and in your unconscious state you will not even see that you are doing these things to yourself. This experience will directly effect the emotional state you are in and with the mind identification on full strength you will find it almost impossible to avoid taking the emotional state and bringing it to the energy field of pain as though you have no other choice. Of course the mind will not let you see choice, it has to feed on something to keep going and in this unconscious state it will see pain as a never ending source of food to continue to feed it to get it’s nourishment. The conscious state you could choose stands in the background and what ends up happening is it will continue to feed unless or until you decide that what you are doing has reached a point of ending.

This unconscious mind state impacts the emotional state you are in as though to keep you in a loop of sorts and while this loop is activated it is much like making cotton candy in the energy field of pain. It keeps you from your state of being love, or the place where your true love resides. See this as part of what the connection can’t experience for this is a part of the disconnection that was in you to begin with. Mind identification with connection!
The connection itself stands still in these moments, seeing this as a way to plant the seed of healing and growth. For when you do become conscious of this behavior, by coming to your senses your mind will suddenly become quiet it will not want to volunteer why this unconscious state was activated or where it even came from when it comes to the statements it implies.

It can be experienced much like this! Why don’t they want me? Why am I giving them all my love and nothing is returned? I am giving them all my love for nothing. These statements help the unconscious you that has been infected with the mind to resort to statements that give this any truth. (Truth here is to be taken as a lie) I am not worthy of this great love in connection, I feel I am… (Inset what the words are here that give you a sense of self that causes you pain.) If this is blank in this moment that you are reading this, it is due to the minds absence, and your consciousness is available to you in this moment. The now is the only place that the mind can ever be caught. For the constant chatter that the mind can keep playing over and over again when you stand in full consciousness can’t be accessed. It does this much like a switch. The switch you ask? Well the switch is the unconscious behaviors that can result in anything that can make you do the wrong things and be right about doing them. This is generationally inherited behavior but we will go into that at another now moment where the truth will be all you need to disable any switch. Much like unconscious states of being the truth can dismantle any switch as well.

In deep connection you experience moments of full consciousness simultaneously and experience it in great depth. This is not something the mind can experience because your senses are in full drive of the moment and don’t truly need the experience that the mind will try and make it to fully embrace the moment. In truth you experience shared senses of something that allows the unconscious mind to become dormant and allow you the truth in being or soul to experience absolute truth of what the present moment is and how you have been whole all along with any chatter or unconscious result that the mind will try and turn things into. You will be free of identity victim or perpetrator, free of thoughts that create unconscious patterns in you and deeply within wholeness and completeness you experience the free access of truth that you are this all along with or without the connection you are experiencing outside you, because deep within you the truth is revealing itself. You experience this in the now as you have accessed the silence that wonder of this fulfilling experience can give you because you removed judgement to be deeply connected inside yourself. You see the place of wonder you experience is everything in it’s aliveness, and are able to stand in this without time even knowing what time is. The truth is revealed. Connection is a very powerful experience whether it is with your twin (infinite vibrational soul resonating connection), a soul mate, a friend, a family member or most powerfully with yourself.

The relinquishment of judgement of the self has great power in bringing you into a greater strength you can access to be conscious. The beautiful way this is experienced is deeply embedded in you it is only accessible in your now, never in your later or what was.

When you truly bring yourself into consciousness without judgement or any of the minds incessant rants about what you are and how you can be in the moment you will find that what has occurred to keep you disconnected can be seen with gentle ease granting you full access to true love. It grants you the open door to be that state of consciousness that is placed within you to be that depth of love seeing the truth you are whole and complete without any distraction to be love in all things.

One of the greatest illusions we can experience is becoming unconscious and our mind activates the emotional state and brings it into the energy field of pain that will without our knowing become us in an identified mind state of who we are and what we have done or will do or will become. This is not you it never has been you, just an experience of the mind labeling you and the content that is you.

It will make you state things to include but not limited to, I am lonely, I am hurt, I am scared, I am right, I am wrong, I am not enough, I am a failure, I am a horrible father/mother. I am not a good mate, and now you will be stuck in playing a role of something you never are in your truth. You will play this role till you are no longer going to feed it, it can be that you can feed it every once in a while or you can give it a snack now and again. You can’t starve this for it is almost the same as feeding it. You can however do something that is available to you now! That is become conscious of what your mind is stating that you are or need to be or allowing it to access your emotions by not giving what the mind says any true weight to keep you in a state of loops that will create a sense of self that keeps you in dead lock.

Be now! Be connected! Be conscious! After all it is only going to be a pattern that will do exactly as stated here. When you realize you no longer need to drink the poison to be connected you will be fully connected without thought! This truly is coming to your senses!

Love deeply,

Clark1111-alarm-clock-dreams-pink-Favim.com-243186

How do you resolve negative energy?

Arising Negativity…..yinyangposneg We have not seen the truth about negativity in our existence in human… This is to point you to a greater truth. All resistance of what is.. Cumulates over time and the mind will now create a story to be placed here. You can see this in what others say about others, in what others create within their stories that is perceived as negative and then there is a deeper humbling experience of what negative is. The mind or ego as it were believes that through negativity it can manipulate reality thus giving it a power. This negativity in ego truly believes it can get what it wants and have it’s needs met under the identifying light of the ego which is actually in the dark nature of what we experience in human! It seeks what is unconditional and tries to create conditions to be made where it truly sparks a thought process that can be injected into us from the outside world, but never truly reaches our depth of what it means to be human. Nothing can take away your inner peace in this way instead it floats on the surface where the inner peace can either absorb it through embracing what is said or create an identity to generate anger, isolation, retreat, the common energy of the emotional body which produces fear. We shared our journey out of this energy of inner peace, no judgements created, no sense of self created, just the unconditional love that can be accessed through the story the story teller told to allow us to show that true love can stand by itself without the need of negativity of the activated mind that sees itself in annihilation of being found out. If you say somewhere inside I am a doctor, I am a lawyer, I am a god, or I know others who are prestigious in their field of work in this world. You are no different than a homeless person sitting knowing that true love is there, it is there to say I am something in ego that needs to be heard. This voice is not the voice of love this is the voice of created negative energy that is seeking conditions on something that can be transmuted into unconditional. Here is something to look deeply within and embrace in such a way that you see the present moment more clearly! Any form of negativity that you hold onto is a deeply unconscious start or level that doesn’t want positive change. It threatens an identity created in ego that would threaten the identity to use the energy of anger, depression, rejection, abandonment or the like. It’s purpose to attack and defend it’s mental position you have inside your mind will then seek the way of sabotage, ignoring, denying, and seeking what is said as a means to keep others from seeing the point of finding true love to include the deep love within yourself. This energy of negativity inside of each of us, don’t see how this works when you embrace your true inner peace. This is found in the deep love you are concealed in the deep inner peace of what is! Face death for example. When you face this to it’s core you see the truth that we all will share this no matter what we are. You can be a millionaire on a yacht traveling the world, a homeless person sitting in the bitter cold. A person who doesn’t use the internet or social media to inject the negativity in the world….. You will be as we all are you will one day die, the negative and positive energy that made you up will become a present moment experience and will go into silence and the deep peace will be all that is there. The truth of negative will finally embrace you, and how you use this as a negative pollutant will now be used for the air that is breathed in this world without you in it! It will then be apparent that the negative thoughts that kept you hidden to form that we all have in human will now be passed on to someone who will take your place injecting to identify with a mental position of who is right or wrong! In this case the self would be! In the wild life there are predators and prey all of which follow the circle of life, there is love there that doesn’t have a thought process and doesn’t make living and dying or even I am better than you or more deserving than you a reason to attack yourself or others. It just flows within the energy as it is! If you find your inner peace you will find the deeper overwhelming love that comes with it. It has both negative and positive energy and it flows through you as it does all creatures on the planet! Just don’t attach the mind to it and it will show you the most deep love. Not what we do to each other but what in truth you do to yourself. True healing comes from the inner peace we can reach with each other because we are the same regardless of social status. Negative emotions contain a deep message inside of it, as do illnesses of any kind, are you curing cancer of placing a band aid on it! When you reach the truth of what is negative you will realize how you have created it through ego where it never needed this at all to spark this illusion of the physical. If something sparks you as negative see the truth, it is sparked to ask you one simple thing, are you connected or disconnected from being, which is human and not! When you embrace being fully present you no longer seek unconscious behavior for the world to see you embrace a conscious love the world can feel. Not because it is true outside you but because it is true within you! When someone says something to you that sparks negativity in you, instead of attacking, defending, or withdrawal let it pass through you, become transparent to the energy that comes to you, not resistant which will create an ego in you to emerge to do that very thing. It is a self that is created with mental position and not a spiritual one that embraces what needs to be felt in the deep despair of being that keeps you from your inner peace and can infect others in their inner peace. The primary is the most important! Know that forgiveness inside is that it requires giving up the hope that the past can be any different and forgiveness in this present moment is to offer no more resistance to what is! Being vulnerable enough to become invulnerable to all things is acceptance. It offers you to see others unacceptable behavior and see that the ego becomes activated from the story and the story teller that makes them right and everyone else wrong! No one has power over your inner state of peace except you, when you live in that you will then want everyone to access it for it is there place of being, it is where joy and resistance meet to be transmuted into peace which you are made up of. You are the deep ocean blue when you find this within you, not without you! Love deeply, Clark

Can you surrender to deep love? Twin Flames!

Love deep.. real deep so you love deeply!

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Welcome dear soul….

The power of resistance of the ego and it’s effects on the pain body!

Runner, Chaser, Stand Stiller? Which is it? We love you welcome to another installment of our Journey!

We are often challenged when it comes to resistance of what we interpret others are doing, thinking or seeing us as we are. We often do this from a lens that either is resisting something we are fighting inside or because we just won’t see both sides to anything.

True change is possible without resistance is this not a fact? When you have resistance to something you don’t agree with for example, you have a few choices, retreat, attack or surrender. The surrendered action is looked at as weak, where actually it is the most powerful. Not a choice to be weak or strong is this action for it requires you to do the most beautiful…

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Dreams Do Come True and It starts with YOU!

sherrylee

 

When we think of Relationships or Marriages we have such a “vision” of Happiness and Bliss
and then soon find out The “Honeymoon” Stage does not last forever. But why? Why doesn’t it?

Why cant it? What changes or What Factors in? Well When we are in the ‘honeymoon” stage or when we have just met, aren’t we really on our “best” behavior? Normally no Ego or Pride or Judgement factor in. We are in a state of spiritual Bliss Kissing and hugging and holding one another, holding hands, laughing and playing, It really is our Inner Child coming out and being real. The Real us is who is actually participates in the honeymoon stage Its who our partner has fallen in love with, our true loving selves. And then as time persists and you spend more and more time together you begin to pack your layers back on, you find your crutches, those crutches consist of anger, low self worth, trust issues and pain and hurt. Well it might be easier to say you put your “story” back on.

Now you have two people who were just so in love last week, to annoyance, judgement, bickering, arguing, fighting , lying, hiding, and then SHIT GETS REAL . The intimacy slows down, the kissing turns into pecks on the cheek, the romance goes away, The sweetness tuns into tolerance, The Love is there, but annoyance is also very present. We find this happening in so many relationships and marriages. She stopped this or he stopped that. The T.V Comes on and seriously couples are setting in front of it and simply not communicating unless they are laughing at the TV or asking for something to drink. Then there are those times when they find themselves going out to dinner or somewhere but they bring those damn cellular devices and their eyes are focused on their cell phones and not on each other.

Why? Why cant we stay the way we were when we met? Why can’t the “honeymoon stage” last forever….. Well I hear it all of the time, that is a fairy tale. Its just fate, life is as it is, we get up in the morning we go to work (While at work, one or both partners are searching the internet for porn or an emotional relationship or friends with benefits or searching craigslist for who knows what) then we come home, find ourselves on the couch asking one another what do you want for dinner, then dinner is ordered,then we watch a couple more hours of TV. and then we got to bed to do it all over again tomorrow. Eventually Adultery, Alcoholism, Drug Abuse, unhappiness, settling and frustration come into play. Then Facebook is lit up with posts about how your life sucks and how big of an asshole the other is.

The Quote : “Be who you were when you first met and there will be no Exs” Rings true and I sure wish Lee and I would have realized this before we went through Hell a few times, however Our connection stayed strong even when we were not “together”. Lee and I learned the Hard way
how to get to where we are now. That is one of the reasons we do what we do, we help others to not have to go through the hell, we teach them them the tools to live in “The Honeymoon stage” always. We teach them how to communicate in honesty. We teach them how to stand in their Truth.

Imagine if you will a Union, Two People who are so in love so deep in love even a few years in they act as if they are still dating, Well Wait. You don’t have to Imagine let me tell you, lee and I after all of this time still giggle with each other, we still look into each others eyes, we cry together, we laugh together, We seriously tell each other EVERYTHING, Lee knows how much I weigh, I call him in the bathroom when I step on the scales, I know what he weighs, I know everything about Lees past, about his life and vise Versa and we don’t judge each other. Lee opens the car door for me still, He kisses my forehead. He is not afraid to stand in feminine energy and show his emotion. Lee and I will just turn on the music and slow dance in the living room. We flirt with each other.

Lee and I do everything together, we work side by side everyday, we eat together, we sleep together, when we leave the house we rarely leave the house without one another. Just Last week at a family function we were in my sisters back yard and the chairs were in a circle and I went inside and when I came back out, my daughter was in my chair next to lee,so i grabbed a chair and pulled it up close to Lee, my sister had a fit, she looked at me and said DAMN Sherry you CAN be apart from him!! YOU WONT DIE! You dont have to sit Right by him all of the time.

I understand that and I Can be without Lee, I Can and I do things without him from time to time but the fact is I WANT to be near him, I WANT to sit next to him, I love how we communicate. Lee and I keep NOTHING hidden from one another. If Im feeling some sort of way I can be honest about everything. If im sad I can tell him why, If Im mad I can tell him why. We dont keep things in.
all of our passwords are the same in our devices we share e mails, We share Facebook we share a damn cell phone, why have two when you are always together anyway? There is NOTHING,NOTHING hidden within us.

Do you know how free that is? Do you know how liberating it is to be able to be so completely open and honest with someone? Do you know whats its like if I need to cry I can for no reason, I can and he will hold me I dont have to hold it in, I dont have to hide. Do you have any idea how free it is when I am feeling really self conscious I can say to him I just dont feel good about myself right now and he will just listen and ask how can I help you? I am in a union with a man who loves me unconditionally, he accepts me for who I am and He shows his love for me daily.

We Kiss, We cuddle, We spoon, We still hold hands when we are in public. We are in a union of no jealously, no Judgement, No trust issues at all, and it was safe for me to let down those walls. I am safe with him he will not hurt me. He is kind, Loving and sweet. We go to bed every night together and wake up kissing in the morning and the intimacy well lets just say,,,The House does a lot of Rockin,,

Lee and I are not perfect there are few times when our egos get activated the difference is we know that its ego and we communicate it, we talk about it,and they are quickly diffused. It seems to be getting few and far between though and we are identifying any egoic issues before they get out of hand. When I do get angry and I sometimes do Lee simply asks me how im feeling we get straight to the root with one another and that works for us. We dont hold on to any pasts what has happened has happened we cannot change it, we dont EVER bring up past hurts or circumstances it has not place in our union. I call it a Union because we are in Union with one another it is Far Beyond a Relationship.

It took us having to Free ourselves of our Stories, It took Having to go in and peel back the layers it took us doing our work, and dammit we did it the hard way, Should we both have been free of our stories, should we both had been ready before hand we would not have had to go through so much hell, The lying, The Cheating, The Stealing, The Hiding, The Little White Lies, The Manipulation, The Control Issues, The Jealousy, The Yelling, The Arguing, The Pain, The Hurt, The Bringing up of the past, The Holding on to hurt, and all the rest of the hell could have been avoided. This is what we do, Our Boot Camp Program for individuals does just that, we go in and peel back your layers, we clean your house for you so you are READY for your Big Love. So you can find your big Love,or so your Big Love can find you!

We also do couples in crisis on the verge of break up or divorce or stuck in abusive cycles. We coach them back to healthy patterns and give them the tools to continue. We changed we took control of our lives, we broke cycles and patterns, we debunked the quote “once a cheater, always a cheater”, or” once a Liar always a liar”. We overcame, We got stronger and we Started a Business teaching the tools we use everyday, tools that work, tools that bring peace and love to all of those who use them. Fairy Tale? YES,Yes it is a FairyTale and we LIVE in it everyday! Dreams do come true, We have proven that and every single day of this fairy tale life it gets better and there is more kissing and more romance and more love making to do. We flirt when we clean the house or clean out the car, we flirt when we take out the trash, we flirt when we are working. This is real life,the way it should be, the way it can be It is out there and you can have it to,It is inside of you, it is inside of all of us. We found it in ourselves and then we found it in each other now we are free from the bondage of our layers, of our stories.

Life is good, no, Life is great,we have a wonderful family, great friends and we have the most amazingly honest union, We are Free, We are in Peace, We are Deeply Connected in truth to one another and we have forever butterflies and our “honeymoon stage” is everyday life!

Love  Hard

Sherry (lois)

Healing series 2014 May: the fear be with you!

What is fear?

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At some point in our lives we all experience it. Our heart beats faster; we find it hard to breathe; the muscles in our body tense; our brain seems to shut everything else out and the focus shifts to the terror that has changed us emotionally and physically. We are experiencing fear.
So why does fear exist and do we have power over it? Fear according to researchers evolved in all animal species as a defense mechanism. It is a way for the brain to change the body chemistry so that future dangerous situations will create a stimulus, serving as an early warning system. This gives us an ability to determine a course of action that will increase our chance of survival. The chemical response in some cases is so strong it can cause physical and emotional paralysis and impede us from helping ourselves! When that paralysis is not experienced, the body then faces the fight or flight response in defense.
Some fear is healthy, being afraid of bodily harm from a potential attacker for example. Some fear is destructive and damaging, like feeling we cannot be honest with our partners for fear of judgment or ridicule. When we feel fear we need to remember that it’s a call to action. Unlike other animals we are able to choose how we respond to those feelings of dread.
In 3rd grade I was bullied and picked on by bigger kids, and my instinct was to fight. Eventually I was expelled from school and my father began spanking me with a belt as punishment. This punishment taught me to fear his spanking more than the bullies’ beatings. For the rest of my youth I backed down from every altercation. I did nothing to defend myself from the beatings of my peers; allowing them to label me a coward and hopefully leave me alone. I grew up in a very tough area so I got beat a lot. Today I am 44 years old and I have no memory of the physical pain I endured from those beatings, but the pain of not defending myself, of feeling like a coward–that pain lived inside me for so long that I can still feel the shame today if I allow it. When I was 18 I no longer had to fear my father’s punishments for defending myself and I began to stand up for myself again. This did not stop me from getting bullied on occasion, but interestingly enough I don’t remember an ounce of the physical pain; all my mind can recall is the humiliation of a loss, that helpless feeling of not being able to defend myself, that fear that someone else had gotten the better of me.
As I got older I began to read self-help books and to study why I and others thought and acted the way we did. In one of the books I was reading I came across one of the most profound thoughts ever, an acronym that defined what fear really was. The acronym was False Evidence Appearing Real. When I read that it instantly spoke to me. Whether an aggressively intimidating person, an inescapable, unpleasant situation, or a dreaded decision needing to be made, the feeling in all these situations was the same: fear. I finally realized that no matter what the evidence was I was selecting the meaning of it and assuming the worst case scenario. It reminded me of when I was little and I lied to stop my dad from spanking me. The reality was that I lied out of fear; but my punishment never turned out to be as bad as I had assumed it would.
This realization gave me one of the most effective tools for change and success in my life, I understood that only I could determine what had power over me, only I could assume what the consequences where going to be, only I could determine if fear would empower me to act in my defense or paralyze and control me.
Fear is real and it can be a healthy emotion, but do yourself a favor and remember that it’s only a call to action. Your choice is Fight or flight, and sometimes flight is necessary, but too often flight is chosen as the easy way out. As a former coward I can attest that it is easier to run away than it is to stand and fight for yourself. I can say with authority that just because you successfully ran away from your fear, you have not escaped it. Often times the long term damage you will cause by not standing up for yourself, your ideals, the truth, will be very difficult to heal from, because you will know that the fear conquered you.
Today you can make the decision that fear won’t stop you from telling the truth; it won’t stop you expressing your love for someone; and it can’t prevent you from standing up for yourself. Today if you’re feeling fear answer that call to action, and let fear know you’re back in charge of your life.

 

 

J.Austin.Ward
Email: j.austin.ward@gmail.com
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Take a listen this was powerful as Josh and Lee discuss truth and how it is with fear!

 

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/relationship-reinvented/2014/05/05/relationship-reinvented-2014-healing-series

Healing series: How do I stand in my truth?

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How do I stand in my truth?
One of the most uncomfortable challenges of being human is seeing the truth vs. a lie.. We are born into this world without experiencing both positive and negative, so to not understand how we learn to tell the truth or a lie is unknown to us…
As we are infants we see energy we see those that show us love, some show us like and some show us something else.. As we come out of infancy we experience things more common in communication, Bobby is hungry. Mommy, Daddy and there are a list of words… Then as we get just a few years more.. The things we see are explained or not explained.. This part is where the lies begin, we are told we are to young to understand, or words are spelled out in front of us to exclude us from things. Or the energy is offset and we have no explanation why. We in turn start to say this energy is something we caused.. Therein lies the first of many lies.. As young as we are we start to say things inside. We don’t see it and don’t comprehend it, we just know that we are seeking the unknown and when we don’t have words or are shut down for any reason we know that we are experiencing something we now make something about something we are feeling on the inside.

Depending on what others say to us or how their energy is to us, we hear a voice inside that starts to say things that mostly leave us without a purpose or an identity in purpose. We have a mind that starts to generate this and state that and it really never is that someone says something hateful to us, we say it to ourselves…
Now as you can imagine this becomes based in a space that causes us to view everything skewed.. Is there truth to what you see? Not really, it depends on what you are surrounded by when it comes to understanding the actions of others, whether it be your father, your mother, your siblings or just in general other kids.. If you are bullied it can even be magnified even more.. This lie is a lie hurting others because of the lies that say inside that violence or bullying is a way of being in the world. Picking on someone who hurts worse than you do, it is all filled with lies.. Lies that you are not worthy of love, you are not much to anyone, no one can be nice to you, you are disabled from love… This is all the myriad of lies we have.. It starts with our first form of abandonment. rejection, abuse, punishment, confusion with no real explanation that creates a place to understand the actions. You see it can go way deeper than what I am even stating here. Broken trust in what anything is for what it is, because you know love within you!

You know it yet it doesn’t show itself to you, because of the things you have within you without seeking the truth in it. I had seen a little boy recently, he was sad… and I said are you ok? He looked at me and with the saddest most beautiful eyes he said to me… I don’t have a daddy… I said yes you do, I will be your father… He said well what about my real dad, I said son, every father has had a father that possibly didn’t show him the love that a dad can give. I can give you this.. The little boys eyes welled up and I held him why we both cried.. It was the most powerful hug I ever felt… As he cried he screamed, why doesn’t he love me? why doesn’t he want to see if I am ok? Why doesn’t he call me? What did I do that was so bad, I will take it back! I will be a good boy… The more I held him, I listened to him cry out.. all of his truths… He just wanted his father to love him, and tell him he was worth the world to him, and that he was proud to have him as his son. I listened as I heard the lies begin…

I am worthless, I don’t want to be anything when I grow up, I am not good enough for anything, I am not worth loving… I hurt inside because my father wishes I was never born… My heart was breaking for this child.. I couldn’t hold him any tighter for fear I would hurt him. I said it just isn’t true… He said yes it is! As loud as this boy was screaming I could feel the pain coming from him, coming from what he felt inside. The fear, the abandonment, the torture he was under from being attacked from his mind over and over. He finally said… I hate my father… I said Son… you can’t hate your father it just isn’t true none of it.

He tried to pull away… I said what is a father to you? He said not the man who is my father, and I said so how can you hate him for being something he is not? He paused… it was as though something in him shifted.. He was quiet for a long time and then wiped tears from his eyes and said… What do you mean how can I hate him for something he is not? I looked at him and said do you know your grandparents? Grandma or Grandpa his parents? He said yes, I said what do you know about them. Well I know my grandma very well, I see her all the time, and I said what about your grandpa, well he died when I was young but he wasn’t there much for the family! So I said well son, if his father wasn’t there for him, where would you father learn to be a father? His silence was overwhelming. I said you know that pain you feel for your father not being here for you? He said yes! I said can you forgive your father for not knowing how to be a father to you? He said I guess so…. I then pulled him back and looked into this child’s eyes. I said son… No matter what you say inside, your father loves you, he loves you but to be something he was never taught to be with no template how successful will he be? would he make a good father to you?

His eyes as swelled as they became, looked at me and said I suppose not! I looked deeper into him and could see a release from what he felt in anger. I said do you realize how deeply he does love you can you feel it in your heart, that even thought he is not in your life, that heart beat you have is the most unconditional love he gave to you?

He said yes… so I said don’t reject the heart that beats for you.. love you so you can love others and more than that forgive what you don’t know for being upset with things you can’t know will only create suffering. Can you stand in this truth?

Yes, well I am your father and I will be for as long as I am breathing. It was then I felt such tears… Yes the little boy was me and I was speaking to the inner child that always seems to show himself when he isn’t connected inside.

 

How do you stand in your truth?

 

 

Love deeply,

Clark

 

 

Twin Flames Calling…

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Who listens? A Twin Flame Calling…

Your energy is real……

I want…. I need…. If you can’t hear yourself, who can hear you? Who can help you through the storm? Who can help you understand what you are saying inside? When we abandon this need or want who will come to save us from ourselves? Twins find this part of the connection undoable. We lie and lie some more not seeing the truth about how we connect or why we connect. The choice is to keep hidden, to keep searching, to keep running, to keep chasing. What is this more directly? The direct energy of not sharing this with the other is the lack of communication that happens to us that we are quiet inside and we are here to tell you that you are not without….

When we connected dear souls… something was there that made her stay in…

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2014 Healing Series, Blog talk Radio Show with Special Guest Sheri Bessi from The other side of Ugly!

Trust is the topic of todays discussion! ThankHealing series! You Sheri for joining us!

 

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